Bullying - When school attendance is dominated by fear

Bullying is everywhere

School should be a place of learning. A place where young people develop together. However, for every sixth student in Germany, school is a place of fear. Bullying is becoming an ever-increasing problem that makes learning almost impossible in many educational institutions. While bullying is not a new phenomenon, the levels of targeted bullying seem to be increasing in severity these days. Bullying is a form of violence directed against a person in an overt, but sometimes subtle form. The aim of the perpetrators is to "get ready" the victim. The malicious actions have many faces and range from direct insults, threats and teasing to more subliminal methods such as exclusion or the spreading of rumors. This behavior can be seen even in very young schoolchildren and bullying is by no means only a problem in secondary schools. There are already victims of bullying among elementary school students who are excluded and systematically teased by their classmates.

Open your eyes – this is how you recognize bullying
Because bullying can occur in many forms and at all ages, it is not always easy to tell when someone is being bullied. Apart from obvious signs, such as physical injuries through violence or self-harm, parents often hardly notice the subtle bullying through exclusion and rumors. As a parent, you should therefore be sensitive to changes and abnormalities in your own children.

Possible signs that children/adolescents are victims of bullying:
*Sudden drop in performance at school
*They no longer want to go to school *Psychosomatic complaints such as abdominal pain, nausea
*They retire
*They have nightmares, sleep worse
*Belongings are missing/damaged, money disappears
*they are lonely, don't invite friends over.

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My child is a victim - what should I do?
If, as a parent, you notice any abnormalities in your child that indicate that it could be a victim of bullying, the most important thing is not to look the other way. You should actively ask, show interest and offer help. It is advisable to involve the school in specific cases of bullying. Teachers and school management should definitely be informed and help to solve the problem. The affected child must feel the support of the family and know that they are not alone.

My child is a perpetrator - what should I do?
Bullying is bad for the victims and their parents too. But what to do if your own child is not a victim but a perpetrator? Students who bully often seek recognition. Compensating for one's own insecurity is often behind the actions. If your child is bullying, you should actively ask about it and address the problem. It may be possible to find dissatisfaction in the child that can be tackled together. If in doubt, get help from the school. Class teachers, head teachers or social workers can often advise and mediate in this situation.
Bullying affects the lives of many students.

Please keep in mind that the descriptions should only serve as a starting point for thought!
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Bullying - When school attendance is determined by anxiety

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Bullying is everywhere

The school should be a place of learning. A place where young people jointly continue to evolve. For every sixth student in Germany, however the school is a place of fear. Bullying is becoming a growing problem, which makes almost impossible on many educational learning. Although bullying is not a new phenomenon, but the proportions of the targeted mobbens appear nowadays always drastic. Bullying is a form of violence which is directed against a person in the open, but sometimes more subtle form. The perpetrator aims "to finish the victim". The malicious acts have many faces and submit to more subtle methods such as borders or spreading rumors by directly abusing, threatening and Hänseln. Already at very young students, this behavior to see and bullying is not just a problem in secondary schools. Already among elementary school students are bullying victims who are excluded and excluded teased by their classmates.

Eyes on - so you can see bullying
Because bullying can occur in many forms and all ages, it is not always easy to detect whether someone is a victim of bullying. Apart from obvious signs, such as physical injuries caused by violence or self-harm, particularly the subtle bullying by borders and rumors for parents is often hardly to perceive. As a parent, you should therefore respect sensitive to changes and abnormalities of your own children.
 

Possible signs that children/young people victims of bullying are:

*Sudden drop in performance at school
*they want more no longer go to school
*psychosomatic symptoms such as abdominal pain, nausea retreat
*they have nightmares, sleep worse
*possessions are missing / corrupted, money disappears
*they are lonely, invite any friends

My child is a victim - what should I do?
You noticed abnormalities with the own child, suggesting that it could be victims of bullying, as a parent the important thing is not to look away. You should actively ask, show interest and offer help. In specific cases of bullying, it is advisable to involve the school. Teachers and school management should most definitely be informed and help to solve the problem. The affected child must necessarily feel the solidarity of the family and know that it is not alone.

My child is offender - what should I do?
Bullying is bad for the victims and their parents. But what to do if the child is not victims but perpetrators? Students who want to harass often achieve recognition. Often, a compensating of its own uncertainty behind the acts. If child bullies, you should ask here actively and address the problem. May be you can find dissatisfactions of the child, against which you can tackle together. In case of doubt you should seek help at school. Often, class teachers, principals or even social workers can advise in this situation and convey.

Please keep in mind that the descriptions should only serve as a way of thinking!

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